Just as patience will take anything from others, kindness will give anything to others. God, of course, is our supreme model in this. Romans 2:4 says, “Or do you despise the riches of His goodness, forbearance, and longsuffering, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?” (Romans 2:4 NKJV).
You’re a Christian because God’s love won you over. The goodness of God brought you to repentance. In the same way, if a husband loves his wife as Christ loved the church, then she will respond. Just as the church responds to Jesus, a wife will respond to the loving initiative of her husband.
We’re to show kindness to one another in practical things. For example, when you first started going out with the person who became your wife, you wanted to impress her. You dressed nicely and cleaned up your car. You picked her up at her house and opened the door for her. You told her she was beautiful and brought her little gifts.
Then you got married and well, things changed a bit. You still bring her gifts: “Honey, here’s my dirty laundry. Can you get it washed soon?” You still open the door for her, but you close it before she’s all the way through. You’re taking her for granted.
The Bible says of the virtuous woman that “her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her” (Proverbs 31:28 NLT). Guys, when is the last time you praised your wife? When is the last time you complimented her?
I don’t know why, but it’s generally the nature of men to suppress emotions and to suppress affection. So we have to make a conscious effort to go against the grain of what comes naturally. We have to make a conscious effort to show kindness.